You can have a perfect marriage; but there are some things that you will need to do daily for it to be perfect. One of those things is to read your Bible together every day.
Marriages are designed by God, but the devil hates them and he works 24/7 to destroy them. Both of you need to read the Word of God together on a daily basis so that you will not be overcome by the temptations of the devil.
Hebrews 4:12 said: The Word of God is sharper than any two-edged sword. You cannot fight a battle without your weapon, and you are going to need to have knowledge of the word of God (Bible) to overcome the attacks of the devil.
To achieve a perfect marriage, you need to start doing the things that you are reading in the Bible. Nothing will change in your marriage until you start to become not just a reader, but more importantly a doer of God's Word.
Your Bible has all the knowledge and information you need to have a perfect marriage. Consume its content and apply them to your life and you will not regret the results it will bring to your marriage.
I don't know what the future holds and none of us does, but God knows the end from the beginning. This is why it is important for both of you need to talk to Him every day because your future is in His hands.
Many marriages fail. Why?
Because they failed to pray about their problems. They seek help from their friends who are also struggling with their problems. You need to seek the Lord while He may be found. Isaiah 55:6
You cannot avoid God and expect your problems to be solved, you cannot have a perfect marriage if you are not communicating with your maker.
When you pray, you are demonstrating to the LORD that you cannot do it on your own and you need His help.
When God sees this, He is moved to give you helping hand, but you need to see the need to involve Him in your daily life through prayer.
A well known quote says: "The family that prays together, stays together."
This is so true and it's a quote that many family have made their motto. They understand and know that prayer is significantly important and their marriage can never be perfect without God's divine intervention.
The Scripture said we husbands must love our wives as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for it. Ephesians 5:25
This kind of love is rare today.
Most husbands do not love their wives to the point where if it comes to the test they would even die to protect her.
As hard as this is husbands, it is what the Bible teaches and the Bible is the Words of God so we should not take this for granted.
The wife is the weaker vessel and when a woman leave her father and mother and marry you, you becomes her father. This is why she is your baby. Your babies are not only your children, your wife is also your baby and this is why God said to love her so much that you would be willing to die for her like Christ died for the church.
I am sure that a lot of men will read this and disagree with this particular law, but it is an instruction from Scripture and God's Words are perfect and should be heeded.
Just like prayer is communicating with God and this is of paramount importance, it is also important that a wife and husband communicate daily.
There will be times when teeth and tongue will meet. In other words, there will be arguments and disagreements, but do not let the sun go down on your wrath. Ephesians 4:6
Forgive each other quickly and allow the love you have for each other to dominate the disagreements that are trying to break you apart.
When a man and a woman or a wife and a husband don't talk to each other; the marriage becomes wounded, and the wound becomes worse the longer you keep it up.
The way to overcome disagreements in your marriage is to let the love that you have for each other be stronger than the disagreements. When you value your marriage vows and your love for each other more than your different points of view on a topic; you will be on your way to a perfect marriage.
Sex plays a gigantic part in a marriage and when you take the time to fulfil and satisfy each other's sexual need, you keep the flames of love alive.
You will be living together for a very long time i.e. a life time and you will learn and understand a lot about each other. As you learn and understand each other's sexual desires, do your best to fulfil them.
Whatever you do within your marriage and under your roof is your business and it is fine because the Bible said that the marriage is honorable and the bed is undefiled. Hebrews 13:4
Do not practice to punish each other sexually by holding out and not each other . This is not good. The only time the Bible said you should keep away sexually is for the sake drawing closer to God through fasting and prayer. Read 1 Corinthians 7
The words "I love you" are very powerful, and they have the potential to turn a struggling marriage into a perfect marriage.
For some persons, verbalizing these three little words is easier said than done, but think about the person you are saying it to, would you let your feelings get in the way of making that person feels special?
Your marriage vows are very important and you should respect them and remember them. One of the vows said that you will be faithful to each other in sickness and in health. Another one said "until death do us part."
This is a serious commitment and you should remember how much you love your spouse when you were uttering these words.
Never let anything spoil that love you had when you were dating, that love that made you both decided to go to the altar and become man and wife.
So whenever something happens in your marriage that threatens you to lose it, remember that what you wanted from the start was a perfect marriage and that takes hard work from both parties.
A perfect marriage is impossible if you do not make time for one another. The things that you have to do daily can take away your family time if you let them, so you need to know when to say enough.
Like right now I am typing up this blog and I know that I will have to soon put it aside and spend some time with Nakeisha my wife.
She has been home with the three kids for the entire week while I was at work, and she does everything that a wife should. I know how demanding that can be, so when I am home I need to let her know how much I appreciate her and hug her and spend time with her.
It is very easy to take things for granted and behave as if the things that she does are not important. So I encourage you to pay attention to the little things that your spouse does.
They might seem like nothing, but I can tell you that if you have to do them all by yourself, you would learn to be more appreciative.
There will be times when you will hurt each other's feelings, and that's normal. What is abnormal however, is when you allow the hurt to go on for days, weeks and sometimes even years.
This builds up bitterness and even more hatred inside the heart, causing the hurt and the pain to become more severe.
So practice to forgive each other quickly and avoid bitterness to enter your relationship. If both of you practice this law, you can have a perfect marriage.
A perfect marriage is impossible without work. You have to work hard to get your salary, you have to work hard to get that excellent grade in school, you have to work out to keep a healthy body, so you must also work hard to have that perfect marriage.
Everything good requires hard work because nothing good does not come easy.
Work at your marriage daily and don't slack off, because the moment you stop working, is the time the marriage stop working.
Do not rush the process, everything takes time to come to maturity. Your level of effort to make your marriage work is the crucial part.
You have to be willing to fight for what you have, because the devil does not like to see a man and his wife living together happily.
He always tries to break it apart and make you enemies to each other.
So it is your (JOB) to put out the effort to make it work. If you want one thing that to stand out to you in this blog, let it be this:
YOUR EFFORT TO MAKE IT WORK IS KEY.
Everything that you have read here is useless, unless you are willing to put in the work. Anyone can have a perfect marriage, but not everyone are determine to do the work.
God bless you, keep working.
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